It's natural as an Independent Mother at times to feel lonely. Although we have our child(ren), sometimes we crave that adult interaction. We cannot have adult conversations with them and share our innermost thoughts and feelings because they are young and as much as we love them, we reserve such conversations for our girlfriends. I would like to reassure you that you are completely normal and you are not the only one who feels like this. I wanted to also offer some encouragement in this post and to reassure you.
If ever you find yourself feeling lonely, please reach out to someone, maybe a relative or your friends. If you are able to set up a facetime date, video call over WhatsApp, Skype or Zoom. Seeing their faces will make you feel so much better!
Find online groups.
Online there are a lot of groups you can join where there are Mothers like yourself who are also in need of adult interaction and would love to talk to other Mothers. If you have particular interests, for example reading, sewing, baking, etc look for groups in your area and make some new online friends!
Make everyday a fun day.
Do your very best to plan fun activities and have fun filled days with your child(ren). Enjoy yourselves as much as you can and make the most of these precious little moments that you will share together.
Go for walks.
With your child(ren) go for walks and try to find new routes each day. You'll be amazed at what you will discover in your local city. It will also present conversation starters and learning moments for you both. Going for our daily walks have helped Isabella-Grace and I so much. She is always excited to go on a "new adventure" and I must admit I am too!
Create challenges and reward systems.
Give yourself something positive to do, this can work well for your little one(s) too. Maybe set up a book challenge and plan to read a certain amount of books by the end of two weeks or you can do a keep fit challenge. If you need some ideas, Google is your best friend!
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Join a church meeting.
My family and I make it our mission to regularly tune in to our church meetings online. It feels just like church minus the physical building and the endless hugs from our church family! However, it feels lovely to be able to access this service and still worship God. We also watch another service on YouTube throughout the week on days when our church does not have a service. Don't forget your spirit needs to be fed too Queens!
Scriptures for dealing with loneliness:
1. "Draw nigh to God, and He will draw nigh to you.." - James 4:8. Draw close to God and He will draw close to you. God loves His children and He will never leave you. Whenever you feel lonely, remember that your Father in heaven is right beside you.
2. "Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness." - Isaiah 41:10. Here God is telling us how we have nothing to fear because no matter what He is not going anywhere without us. You belong to Him and God looks after all of His children.
3. "Where can I go from Your Spirit? Or where can I flee from Your presence? If I ascend into heaven, You are there; If I make my bed in hell, behold, You are there. If I take the wings of the morning, And dwell in the uttermost parts of the sea, Even there Your hand shall lead me, And Your right hand shall hold me.." - Psalms 139:7-10." God won't turn His back on you. If you read Psalm 139 you will begin to understand just how precious you are to Him. Unlike some He won't ever walk away from you.
I hope that this post has been helpful for you. Do you have any other suggestions?