What is the hardest thing about being a mother?
Being a mother is a full-time job and it means that you do not have any days off. Even if you are blessed to be able to have some alone time now and again, you still never fully switch off. Your mind is constantly thinking about your children and wondering what mischief they are getting up to. With that said it is never a bad thing to spend your time thinking about your children, it just shows how much you love them.
For me personally, I would have said the hardest thing about being a mother is constantly worrying about my daughter. As a mother sometimes you can’t help, but worry about the funniest things, “oh I wonder if I have packed enough nappies,” or even, “I wonder why she does not want her favourite toy, maybe she has gone off of it..” At times we even think so far ahead into the future, so much so that we end up worrying about when the big day will arrive where our children will start their first day at school, which also results in worrying if they will make friends or not. I try to not allow my thoughts to run away with me as I know she is always in safe hands and that God is constantly watching over her.
All of the above is completely natural and as time goes by these feelings will suddenly change and when they do change they will be replaced, not with more anxious ones, but with excitement and pride. Watching my daughter grow before my eyes often leaves me bewildered and in awe at God’s goodness, He is absolutely amazing! Bella is learning to say so many new words and phrases and sometimes we sit down and engage in lengthy conversations about so many things. Sometimes we talk about her favourite subject ever (Peppa Pig – sigh!) or we talk about what she would like to eat on that particular day. She is learning to identify different objects and it does leave me feeling so proud because she is learning so quickly!
So, what is the hardest thing about being a mother?
Believe it or not, it is what I have just mentioned. Yes, I am bewildered at God’s amazing handiwork, but watching her grow is also slightly bittersweet for me. The hardest thing about being a mother for me is realising that my daughter is no longer a baby, but she is a toddler. In about a months’ time I will actually have a 2 year old. I am not sure where the time has gone, but oh has it gone. I am grateful that I have spent a lot of time taking pictures with and of my daughter, so when I do think about how quickly she is growing up I sit down and look at her baby pictures and watch her baby videos. Sometimes we watch them together and she says, “oh look baby. That’s you Bella!”
Being a mother does not come with a handbook and often we go into motherhood thinking it will be a walk in the park, (or maybe this was just me!) when in actual fact motherhood is full of highs and lows. There are always good days and sometimes bad days too, but the thing about bad days is they can always be turned around. Your day is as good as you want it to be and this is why I refuse to let my daughter growing up so quickly get me down. In fact I cherish these precious moments that I have with her even more. Creating amazing memories and capturing them with photographs is the best way to one day explain to her why someone (I won’t mention any names!) decided to dress her like a little rainbow or why in almost every single picture/video of her did she have DeeDee (her comfort toy) in her mouth. These moments count and they will always be precious to me.
Now over to you, what is the hardest thing about being a mother for you?