Dealing with heartache.

Dealing with heartache and any sort of letdown is enough to make you start thinking that you did something wrong. It is often in these moments that you may feel low within yourself. Heartache is disheartening, but heartache is not the end. Someone choosing to not see you for the wonderful woman that God created you to be is on them, NOT you!

I do not want you to feel downhearted about time invested, money spent or you being a genuinely kind and compassionate person. As believers and followers of Christ we are called to love others. This principle can be difficult especially when an individual/individuals may not appear to be very loving in return, but I encourage you to not change who you are because of their inability to see who God had blessed them with (you) at that particular time.

It will always be their loss and your gain because you are not the one who has lost anything. You are the one who can walk away with the confidence that you did the best that you could and that you represented our Heavenly Father well. You are not the one who has to deal with the repercussions and negativity of how you treated them. You are also not the one who will have to give an account to God about your behaviour towards them.

You will gain peace, you will gain freedom, you will gain joy, you will gain love and you will also be restored by Our Heavenly Father because He cares for you. Their actions and their words reflect them, not you. Their unkindness and their habits are a representation of them, not you.

“The Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; And saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.” - Psalm‬ ‭34‬:‭18‬.

Sometimes you won’t receive an apology. Other times you will. It is easier said than done to say “move on,” because time shared, conversations had, and a lot of other things play a role and ultimately shape the way you feel but be of good courage. God does not delight in His children being hurt.

God desires for you to be happy and to live a wholesome well-rounded life with Him. Your kindness and good heart helped that particular individual at that time and although their current attitude and behaviour may demonstrate something else, there was a time when they felt they could not go on, but through the grace of God you came and stepped in. You helped them to see the light at the end of the tunnel. You may not have had everything you desired there and then either, but you did what you could because of who God created you to be.

God is close to you even when it may not feel this way. The beauty of our Heavenly Father is He never abandons His children. Take heart and be of good courage knowing that He is always going to be close to you regardless of who has stayed and who has left.

“The eyes of the Lord are upon the righteous, And His ears are open unto their cry.” - Psalm‬ ‭34‬:‭15‬.

Your kindness may get taken for granted sometimes but keep being kind.

Your generosity may appear to not make a difference but keep being discerning and generous (sometimes you have to realise when your generosity is being taken for granted.)

Your thoughtfulness may not always be considered but remain thoughtful.

Your wisdom may be overlooked but continue to be wise.

Nothing that has happened to you, nothing that anyone has ever done to you and nothing that someone has made you feel will ever change the beauty that is inside of you – unless you allow it to. I implore you to continue to be that very same empowered woman and confident Mother that God designed. The enemy will NOT win this, don’t let him!

Constantly worrying about matters and people that are out of your control will leave you restless, agitated and stressed out. God desires for you to leave Him in charge, so that He can take control.

God wants you to rest in Him!

God wants you to trust in Him!

God wants you to believe in Him!

God wants you to have faith in Him!

Allow God to be God Mama.

“Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” - Matthew‬ ‭11‬:‭28‬-‭30‬.

It hurts, I know, but it won’t hurt for too long. So, pick yourself up Mama, wipe those tears, straighten your back, lift your head up and keep raising those beautiful blessings that God has given you. Keep on being the best Mama that you can be.

God sees everything and He understands why He does not allow certain things to work out. God sees what we do not see, and He will NEVER withhold any good thing from His children, do you know why?

He knows that if He gave you certain things they would destroy you. They would take you away from your purpose and your destiny and God loves you too much to allow you to go through that.

He loves you so much that He does not want to ever lose you.

He loves you so much that He wants only His very best for you.

God wants you to see that all He does is for your good.

He does not desire to hurt you, so please trust Him.

Trust Him with every part of you.

I can assure you of this one thing: God will never, ever, ever fail you. Not today, not tomorrow, not next week, not next month, not next year – never.

In those quiet still moments, you can be assured that He is listening. God knows your heart better than anyone else for He is the one who created you. God knows what you are thinking, how you are feeling and what you are about to say before you even utter a word from your lips. Bond with God and allow Him to heal you.

“And hereby we know that we are of the truth, and shall assure our hearts before Him. For if our heart condemn us, God is greater than our heart, and knoweth all things. Beloved, if our heart condemn us not, then have we confidence toward God. And whatsoever we ask, we receive of Him, because we keep His commandments, and do those things that are pleasing in His sight.” - ‭‭1 John‬ ‭3‬:‭19‬-‭22‬.

God will be with you forever and that is what I call true love.

Be blessed and encouraged always.

With love,

Roxanne-Sasha.