How Do You Bring Inner Peace Into Your Life?
I strongly believe that life is too short for you to be anything other than happy. Sometimes we complain about the most trivial things when really, we should be grateful! Grateful for our many blessings, I mean, stop what you are doing and look around you. What do you see? From glancing over at your children to your humble abode and even you and your health, what does that say to you? Of course, we will have days where at times everything seems to be going wrong and it is okay to have a little rant, but aim to not stay down for too long. Negativity is so contagious and when we allow ourselves to stay in a pessimistic mood we can easily affect those around us and that includes our children -yikes! It is not easy to always be positive about everything, but if we start trying now in time it will be effortless.
Negativity has NO place in our lives, especially as mothers, we always have our little people observing us, so it is our responsibility to show them how resilient we are. With that said as children grow up they will experience an array of emotions themselves, but if you are always negative, down and out how do you think that will affect your children? Do you think that they will grow up and be happy? Later, in their lives when they face adversity in their lives, how will they react? Will they respond by rising to the challenge or backing down and admitting defeat? Let’s train our children to be winners, not to quit when life throws them lemons, but to catch the lemons and make some lemonade! I have created this mini guide to help you work on your inner peace.
Take Your Problems To The Lord In Prayer!
This is my first piece of advice because God is always the first point of call for me. I am guilty of speaking to God about issues and then speaking to others about the same issue, when really, I should take it to Him and leave it there! God knows how to deal with all situations the best, He has been doing this for many, many years and He will help us to handle absolutely everything. When we give our problems to the Lord, then take them to Jenny, Susan and Clara what we are doing is saying, “here God, please take this,” then a few minutes later, “thank you God, but let me take it back.” STOP! When you give your problems to the Lord, leave them right there for Him to deal with it. He knows best, please allow Him to sort it out!
‘Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you.’
-1 Peter 5:7
Okay, so I write this is no big secret. I love writing and I write anywhere and anything that comes to my mind. I actually go everywhere with a notebook and pen in my bag, always have done and always will do. I find writing to be therapeutic and when I am having a moment, I know that I can write it all down. Try to write down your feelings, write down what is bothering you and why you feel like it is bothering you. Then write how you intend to resolve it. Once you are finished have a look through what you have written down and let it resonate with you for a while. Use that as your resource for how you will deal with future problems. Alternatively, you can keep a diary, there are so many fab diaries on the market, ranging from The Happiness Planner (https://thehappinessplanner.com/) to The Five Minute Journal (https://www.amazon.co.uk/Five-Minute-Journal-Happier-Minutes/dp/0991846206). I own the happiness planner and I love it very much.
INHALE The Good And EXHALE The Bad.
It is up to us what we decide to listen to, everyone has an opinion, but it does not mean that we must take what they are saying on board. I find that when you pick your battles and choose very carefully what to take in it helps you to find more inner peace. Let’s face it there are a lot of argumentative people in the world, we are all different, but there are some who just go out of their way to make things extremely difficult for others. If I ever encounter such people I shut them down in the politest way possible, by simply exercising the block and delete button. I just do not have the time or energy to waste on such individuals. Negativity is not good for the soul and the more you surround yourself around it, the more it will infect you and cloud your thoughts. It is not necessary to put yourself in situations where you are faced with such pessimism, but instead navigate towards conversation that can edify you and feed your spirit.
GOOD VIBES ONLY!
Ah, this is an important one. PLEASE surround yourself with only people who uplift you. I say this all the time because it is so important! I have been there, with the friend whom nobody was fond of (for a very good reason), but I continued speaking to them hoping that they would change, but they didn’t. Long story short the friend was given chance after chance and I mean God showed me from many years ago to cut this individual off, but I did not out of sheer stubbornness. The way in which God dealt with this situation at the time had me in tears, but I can now look back and smile because when we do not hear we shall feel! Not everyone is for you, not everyone has your back and not everyone who smiles with you means you good. You must always stick with those who are challenging you to be better, those who want to see you succeed and those who bring value to your life. At the same time, you must also ensure that you do the same for them. We cannot always take and not give back, sharing is caring.
Declutter Your Mind.
I am a HUGE overthinker! It is not good at all and it is something that God is helping me with because I already think about the next 3 weeks before it has even reached tomorrow – that is not cool! I try to just relax my mind and tell myself “God’s got you!” because He really has. There is no need to worry about anything when you know that God has totally got you. There is a particular scripture which clarifies this so well;
‘Look at the birds. They don't plant or harvest or store food in barns, for your heavenly Father feeds them. And aren't you far more valuable to him than they are?’
See, we have no reason to worry or to overthink because God will always be there to look after us. He knows our needs, our wants, our every whim before we even think it because He created us from nothing. Therefore, it is only right that He would know everything about us. We honestly cannot say that we have ever wanted something and God has not delivered, He always comes through as He is an on-time God. He does everything in HIS time, not our time, but His time.
So, clear your mind and think about things that will not cause you to stress or worry. Instead fill your mind with such happy thoughts and with things that you are going to do to relax.
‘Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. 7 Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.’
Stop Comparing Yourself To Others!
You are different and so is she, your parenting style may also be different to hers and that is completely fine. There is no need to be exactly like her or to have the things that she has because you are both very different. When did being you become a big problem? Embrace who you are and be unashamed! Comparison is the thief of joy and has no place in our homes, minds or hearts. If God wanted us all to be the same, believe me when I tell you that He would have created us all being carbon copies of one another, but He did not. God had a bigger plan, a bigger vision of what He wanted all His children to look like and be like. Do not disappoint Him by deciding that you want to be the same as other people. Please walk in YOUR light mama! You were created to stand out, not to fit in. God breathed life into you and gave you the gifts He bestowed unto you because He knew that you were going to do remarkable things with them for His glory. The only person that you should be comparing yourself with is who you were yesterday – nobody else.
Forgive, Accept, Let Go and Move On!
In that order, forgiveness is so important because it helps us to get closure of some sort. Even if the individual never apologises to us formally, we can still choose to forgive them for the hurt and pain that they have caused because it is our right to be happy. If we do not forgive others we will just walk around carrying this huge burden on our shoulders until the end of time. We don’t need to carry anymore baggage or added weight, it is not necessary. When we forgive others, God can also forgive us for what we do. Accepting what has been done and letting go of it too helps us to heal because we are no longer holding on to the situation or replaying it in our heads, but we bury it and allow it to rest in peace. Moving on is a great feeling, leaving the past behind and moving on to bigger and better things causes wonders to happen in your life. Holding on to things that cause you such grief keeps you stagnant and you will not be able to move, but being free from all of that will encourage you to continue to be strong and face whatever the world has to throw at you.
I hope that these tips have helped you, can you think of any other ways to find inner peace? If so, let me know below!
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